Marriage Counselling? My first shot at counselling: Part 1

So folks, continuing the story on how i got here, i want to share something that happened recently.

In the interest of those concerned i would not be detailed in the descriptions so as to protect the identity of those concerned.  I want to share how I counselled a couple and mediated without realising that i did! Well i knew i did but i didn't really set out to 'fix' it but i sort of did anyway. You know when you see that something is not quite right and you tend to ask and then you realise you were right  all along with your suspicions. Yes that sort of thing.

Background. First of all i am married and i have a son so i sort of have an entitlement to discuss this. How? Well, I have my own family! Hehe. And if it helps anyone's skepticism, i also have a Masters degree (in a scientific discipline) from a choice university in the UK (where i live of course). Phew! Glad we got that sorted. Not that I felt the need to explain myself but i wouldn't want any of our esteemed readers to think this childish by any chance or a waste of their time. And before you think it... i have not even said much about myself, e.g what I do for a living, how old i am, etc. Not relevant for now i think. Story for another day! :)

Back to the story. So this couple is well known to me and my OH. We have known them for a while as we share similar interests and we sort of belong to the same gathering and we meet regularly. They have young kids. In first glance and to anyone they meet they seem to be the ideal couple. Well not ideal per say but there was no reason for you to suspect that all was not well but then...

All that glitters may not be gold! Could be diamond or platinum i know but in this case, it wasn't. Probably the sun's reflection on a shiny worthless metal! Thinking about it now retrospectively i really wish it would become gold. well it will. I believe it will. Thats the problem with this hobby of mine. Well not a problem but a bit of a downside. You tend to unconsciously 'cross your fingers' for the couple(s) whose issue(s) you're sorting. Not that you get paid or have anything to gain whatsoever from their success or triumph.  I think its that overwhelming feeling of satisfaction that things are sorted and you made it happen or the gratification of making people smile. Well i think its mainly because when you put yourself in people's shoes then you can feel their frustration.  Questions like... 'what if that was me' seems to put things in perspective.  

Sorry guys,  i tend to digress a lot but its all for the 'greater good'. I hope.

As i was saying, i realised all was not well with this couple by chance. Turns out there was circumstance that put us together and we ended up spending time together. We still do. Nice times. During this time, one half of this couple formed a close friendship with my OH and then the gossip set in! My OH had an earful. Apparently there was trouble in paradise. Of course as expected i got wind of everything. Quite shocking to say the least! To be continued...